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Coronavirus Update for your Marriage Preparation

In light of the circumstances surrounding the coronavirus, the in-person Archdiocesan Marriage Preparation Conferences in English have been cancelled until March 2021 at which time we will reevaluate our in-person events with the hope of returning to them in early spring 2021. Until then, the Office of Marriage and Family Life invites couples to participate in our newly created online version of marriage preparation. This is available to couples who need to participate in an Archdiocesan Marriage Preparation Conference before March 2021. This conference includes the full NFP workshop that engaged couples are invited to attend as Step 3 of their Marriage Prep, as indicated on the Archdiocesan Marriage Prep timeline.

A virtual version of the Catholic Engaged Encounter Retreat is also available. Please register here.

For those couples who can participate in marriage preparation after March 2021, we ask that they wait for further updates on when we'll be returning to in-person conferences. Please contact, or have a couple you're working with contact, Emily Burds ( for further questions.

Marriage Preparation Conferences in Spanish will still take place on the same dates but will be done virtually through Zoom. Participants can register like usual, through clicking the registration icon at the bottom of this page.

Meetings to plan the wedding liturgy, meetings with the pastor/pastoral staff, and meetings to review the FOCCUS and other pre-marital inventories should still take place, in-person or virtually.

We realize this is a heart-breaking time for so many engaged couples whose wedding plans have been significantly altered. We will pray for the peace of all the couples and those walking with them in their preparation.

Congratulations on your Engagement!

Right now, you’re probably thinking about your reception, dress, and invitations. You want your wedding to be beautiful and perfect – and we do too! The beauty you’re hoping for points to hope much deeper – a joy-filled, solid marriage. Your engagement is not only a time for planning your wedding but a time during which you build the foundation for a lifelong marriage rooted in Jesus. In a world where so much seems temporary, the Church is here to help you prepare for a lasting marriage, one that is fully open to all the grace and blessings God wants to give you through this sacrament. Don’t miss out on knowing all the things God wants you to know about building an excellent marriage!


Marriage Preparation Timeline

Step 1. Contact the parish where you are getting married (as soon as you get engaged or at least 6 months before wedding).

This is essential to do as soon as possible to ensure that you have enough time to resolve any particular issues that may arise. Once you contact your parish, you will be invited to meet with a priest, deacon, or parish staff member to discuss the marriage preparation process.

If you don’t belong to a parish, please contact the Office for Marriage and Family Life and we can work with you on finding a local parish.

Initial meeting with your priest or parish staff member

While every parish operates on a slightly different timeline, in the early stages of your engagement you will meet with a priest or parish director who will walk you through the marriage preparation process and ensure that there is nothing standing in the way of a wedding in the Catholic Church. 

Premarital Inventory

You will also be invited to participate in a premarital inventory which you will be set up with at your parish. This inventory is not a test, but rather a tool to help you as a couple learn more about yourselves and the manner in which you relate to one another. FOCCUS and other similar inventories can be very useful for diagnosing areas of both strength and weakness in couple communication. You will be assigned a trained married couple to walk you through the responses from your inventory.​

Step 2. Sign up for a Marriage Preparation Conference (6 months before wedding).

Once you have connected with the parish where you will be getting married, you will be invited into the parish’s process for preparation which will include your participation in one Archdiocesan Marriage Preparation Conference. This day-long or weekend-long experience will give you the opportunity to encounter dynamic married couples who will share about the meaning of marriage, praying as a couple, and the powerful gift of sexuality and offer tips for a healthy marriage. Regardless of your faith or background, you are welcome at any of these preparation experiences. You will choose one program that best suits your needs as a couple.

Find out more information and sign up for a conference by clicking on the registration icon below.

*SUMMER 2020 UPDATE - Our Marriage Preparation Conference is now online due to COVID-19. Please register for the online conference here: The Catholic Engaged Encounter Retreat for November 2020 is now virtual. Sign up here:

Step 3. Sign up for an In-Person or Online Introductory NFP Workshop (6-3 months before wedding).

Natural Family Planning is a natural, scientific, holistic approach to fertility care. These workshops, taught by one of our local teachers, will introduce NFP in a broad sense and also explain the differences between the several NFP models.  Following the workshops, a teacher will be available for follow up to serve your specific fertility needs. This could include navigating cycle irregularities and connecting you with specialists trained in diagnosing and treating medical conditions. Anyone, whether single, engaged, or married, is welcome to join in this workshop. It's never too early or late in life to learn about NFP!

Find out more information and sign up for an in-person or online workshop by clicking on the registration icon below.

*PLEASE NOTE: The Online Marriage Preparation Conference includes the NFP Workshop within it. Therefore, couples who are signed up for the Online Marriage Preparation Conference do not need to sign up for a separate NFP Workshop.

Step 4. Plan your Wedding Liturgy (2 months before wedding).

Creating time to plan your wedding liturgy is a beautiful way to intentionally include the Lord in your wedding and ensure preparedness and peace on your big day. Resources are available to assist you.

You will plan the details of the ceremony with the parish where your wedding will take place.

Step 5. Receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation (1-2 weeks before wedding).

The Church welcomes and encourages all Catholics to spiritually prepare themselves for marriage through participating in the sacrament of Reconciliation. We invite you to receive God's mercy even if you have not gone to confession for some time. Find confession times near you here!

If it has been a while, don’t worry, you’re not alone! There are helpful tools to prepare you for Reconciliation.


Registration for 2020






Be Devoted by Dr. Schuchts

Dynamic Catholic’s Marriage Prep Videos Better Together

For Your Marriage

Forever by Jackie and Bobby Angel

Happy Together by John Bosio

Heaven’s Song by Christopher West

How to Love your Wife by John Buri

Invited by Stephanie Calis

Just Married by Dr. Greg and Lisa Popcak

Men, Women, and the Mystery of Love by Edward Sri

One Body by John and Claire Grabowski

Podcasts and Videos on Marriage from Ascension Presents

Spoken Bride

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Three Secrets to Holiness in Marriage by Dan and Amber Dematte


Frequently Asked Questions

(Coming soon)

Contact Us


Mary Mueller
Director of Marriage and Family Life
Emily Burds
Associate Director
Tori Franke
Program and Events Coordinator, NFP Consultant
Merridith Frediani
Administrative Assistant




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